When I was in grade school I rarely have friends because my classmates are only fond with someone who’s pretty, handsome and always at the top of the class. Sometimes I was being bullied with my surname which some of my classmates say words that sound like my last name and as a child I was so ashamed because of that. Aside from that, I was also bullied because of my physical appearance of being chubby and my classmates sometimes call me a pig.
But those were just part of my past now and I’ve learn many things from those experiences – after that I strived hard to study well and became one of those in the class ranking, and then later on my classmates forget about how my surname sounds like, became friends with the other children which push me to join in every poster making contest that greatly helped enhance my confidence. And about my physical appearance, well I am still being bullied but at that time I already don’t mind about how my physical body looks like, I am just a chubby kid not a pig and that only prove how parents love me. Those experiences had agreat impact on my overall growth and identity, I wasn’t able to face my fear if I would not have experienced those past – It helped me improve myself as a learner, make some friends and became sociable, be confident, and lastly is to accept myself as I am.
Conflicts is everywhere, we can’t avoid it even if we do the right thing there will always be something that will oppose it and I think that is part of our life – to be challenged, and to continually stand up after the fight.
If conflict occurs on me, I always remember to believe in myself that I can overcome it – may not be today or tomorrow, just don’t lose hope. Facing a conflict is not easy, it sometimes brings me to a roller-coaster like experience when I feel like giving up, God never fail to help me and I always find ways to get back-up.
Hitting a balance if conflict occurs is not an easy task too especially if there are responsibility I must do and things I have to finish. What I do if this happen is that first I pray and ask God for guidance on me that I know I will able to solve the problem sooner or later. And then, ask an advice or help from my family and friends what I can do to survive the challenge. Lastly, how I able to handle and solve the problem is now on me, I may experience negative vibes around but I know to myself that it can never stop me to hit my target and so that gives me strength to keep going and keep doing things to overcome those challenges and conflict in my life. In the end, I will be the one who will benefit it – not the material things I will have, but the sense of self and personality development is what I gain.
What I learned from those problems and experiences is that, “Never, ever stop trying.” Not trying or stopping yourself from doing a trial only means you’re giving up – and that won’t contribute to the development of your personality, it might only drag you down.
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